Marriage is a covenant of love and respect. Getting married is not something to be done because you reaching a certain age or ideal career.
When you get married, you have dreams, aspirations and goals. Then two become one; that is the fundamental foundation of marriage. It’s about unity.
Too often, newlyweds give up their own personal dreams in the midst of their married life. Dreams are big. They are deep. They are in your heart and they never really go away. They sometimes get buried or forgotten as life moves along, but they bob to the surface every now and again. Dreams are important and make up who you are. As your marriage grows and you have children, priorities change (as they should) and they are now the center of your attention.
But I believe a good relationship and a busy family can still make time for your own aspirations. Together, you need to help enable those dreams to come true. Go to college, cure cancer, win an election or simply finish that bike you have been working on forever. When a marriage comes together, important things get lost and put on the back burner. It sometimes overshadows the importance of finding and being yourself.
To some people marriage is the end of their personal life. To me, it is the beginning of something very special. Marriage should not be a place where you lose yourself. It is a place where you find yourself. You will change and grow together functioning as a team, but you should always make time for yourself. Unity in a marriage is about allowing the other person who sleeps next to you to fulfill their dream. When you feel validatoin and support from one another,you’ll do amazing things.
My favorite phrase to my wife whenever doubt creeps into her is “Who told you that you can’t do that?” I know she can accomplish whatever she puts her mind to because I am right there cheering her on. After years of marriage, she proudly achieved her Bachelor Degree for college. She is ecstatic and I am very proud of her. She never gave up.
After many years she has found herself and is still discovering and achieving new things. I believe that by believing and supporting her throughout her decisions, studying, and schooling, I made her journey a more positive experience.
In a marriage covenant you should find yourself and each other. Especially when God is at the center of it all.