In this day and age, people become so dissatisfied with things, and are so fickle that the need to be stimulated continually has become the norm. The opposite word that comes to mind is boredom, an irritating word that teenagers are accustomed to, but should not welcomed in a marriage.
Interestingly enough, this same attitude creeps into marriages when one or the other doesn’t “feel” stimulated. How sad that some people come to that point in their lives that only stimulation, rather than covenant is most important.
I have photographed near 800 weddings over the years, and officiated so many others. Never is there anything written in the vows about the need for stimulation or overcoming boredom. Unless it might be written into a prenup.
So, how is marriage the most pure love affair?
Think about it for a moment. It is about both the male and female in the marriage seeking love from the other. The significance of my wife being my number one, is that no other woman causes me to turn my head. If I look at another woman and like what I see, I have diminished the value of my wife. I believe that many men do this, whether consciously or unconsciously.
Over years, her hair will turn another color (he may lose his). She may put on weight (yes, he does too). She will start thinking differently (he should support her dreams). I am so happy to have a woman who has great thoughts, and my validity to them just increases the depth of love in her heart towards me. How awesome is that?
No woman in her right mind would leave a man who loves her in all her variances. My wife has all my support til the end of our lives. I want to see her fulfilled in whatever dreams she has. This is not about “stimulation”. This is about support. It is about validating her. It is about seeing her come to full fruit in a marriage … and life!
Ladies and gentlemen, if you so choose to read this, please understand that there is an answer in your vows. In our marriage we choose to honor our vows. The reason why a marriage love affair is so pure it because our words and actions should mean something that we honor and adhere to. Especially in this day and age when many do not keep their word (the divorce rate nearing 55% should tell us that). We have a society that lacks trust … in anyone. The losses that started in marriages has crept into churches, schools, employment, politics, etc. It’s time to stop the disasters, and the damage it causes in generations that follow. It seems like many are not paying attention to this.
Are you one of those people who has chosen to complete your vows. One that says even if the bad times come, we are stronger together than apart. One that says if a crisis occurs we will walk through it together. The one that says this wedding date is only the start of a new journey. Where it goes you do not know, but you do it together. PERIOD!
Marriage is one of the purest love affairs, but only if we commit to that ONE person for life.
One man … one woman … for life. The Purest Love Affair.