“BELLO-ISM” of the Day:
Gentlemen, do you want to know the secret to having the greatest woman in the world always in your arms? Simple recipe. Focus on meeting your own lady’s needs and stop comparing her to other women. The comparisons are not fair to her. If you develop your time learning and studying your own lady, you will discover that she will open her heart in deeper ways to you. Too many marriages and relationships are shallow. Is yours? Do you want deep? Then dig deep. She’s worth the effort. Her heart is waiting to be discovered.
Shallowness is the mantra of some very immature people. Yes, there are some who don’t even mind being shallow. However, a shallow person is one who will never dig deep enough to discover the jewels that lay beneath the surface. That shallow person is a truly immature person.
Even in the 1840’s when the gold rush struck America, many people left their safe place to discover for themselves what the fuss was about. In all that, many found gold, and all of a sudden San Francisco went from 200 people to more than 50,000 almost overnight. Those people were not afraid to take a chance and dig deep. They imagined the possibilities. Even the searches were fun. No wonder they called it a gold “rush.”
There was a hunger. Those who dug deep found gold.
The same occurs in a marriage relationship between a man and a woman.
I spend my time, even after many years of marriage, studying and examining my wife. I even examine how I can penetrate her heart to dig for gold. Oh yes, she has gold (as all women do). It is in the deepest caverns of her heart. Many never find it.
I am a die-hard romantic. My wife, not so much. Or, rather, she is not a romantic like me. However, if I dig deep, I find her romance. I find the things that move her heart–the truest form of romance.
Believe it or not, romance is not about sex; it is about connecting one heart to another on a journey of discovery. It can be your own little fairy tale (I know, fairy tales are for the children, you say). However, in the reality of life’s affairs, there has to be a place you can retreat to that says you are loved deeply. Too many people are on the journey of discovering themselves, rather than enjoying how to find that very special love with someone of the opposite sex.
In my own world of photography, I have developed romantic-stylized photography that is about seeing anticipated moments—moments I expect to happen when two people engage. When they whisper. When they smile. I watch. And I anticipate the natural flow of true love. It is in their eyes. The eyes are truly the window to the soul. They do change when the right words, the right whispers are uttered; when the right look is captured.
Gentlemen, your lady is worth those anticipated moments. Dig in and find her soul. You will embrace a love you cannot imagine. This is from a man who has been married a long time and has seen the depths of his own wife’s soul. I have found some treasures that most men will never discover in their own lady. Such fun … but not for the shallow man.