Many have read my BELLO-ISMs for several years now and hopefully it has impacted a few hearts in the right way. A positive spin on helping relationships grow stronger.
The purpose of these simple BELLO-ISM statements had a beginning once upon a time. In our world I see marriages failing at a 50% rate, and felt like taking the small steps to remedy that. Of course I am no counselor, but I do have a unique perspective on marriage, being married over 40 years. That didn’t happen by accident either. We had (and still have some trials) but we have learned that our commitment is strong to the end.
With that being said, let’s look at our male/female relationships for a second.
Men: In our closet are black, brown and tennis shoes.
Women: Have “names” for their shoes.
Men: sit at the table and eat their food.
Women: Notice how pretty the centerpieces are on the table.
When men get together they can change the world. Very different when talking to your wife. She doesn’t want fixed. She wants heard. So guys, be quiet and listen to her. Maybe 30 minutes of uninterrupted conversation daily, as stated in one of my BELLO-ISMs.
Men: Say they love you.
Women: Will test you to see if you love her.
Men: Don’t read minds.
Women: She wants you to discover her. Her heart is open to that special man who can tap into the depth of her heart.
These are just a few simple things why I want to help marriages get stronger.
Oh, one other thing, men. She wants to be treated like a queen (another BELLO-ISM). If she is, you will always have a throne in her heart. How difficult is that? Sounds like a dream to me. She will always reciprocate the kindness you offer. And the opposite is true otherwise.
Ladies, if you have opinions or advice for the men in your life (anonymously of course), please offer your thoughts on this post. I would love to hear your feedback. It might make a post as a BELLO-ISM.
Now on to lowering the divorce rate. One BELLO-ISM a day to keep the marriage in play.