There are such differences between men and women. And even a divide in that aspect. However, God has designed a man and woman to learn to dwell together and begin to understand each other and the needs involved.
Based on my title, how do we heal and unhealthy world? We can begin by understanding our spouse, or we can place them in the proverbial “box” that all are the same. Men will just be men, and women will just be women. Without trying to understand them.
In my case, I’ve been married for many years. Yes, I see all women as basically the same, yet all are different. It’s not fair to classify all women the same. I know that I do not have to understand all women, but I do have to understand my wife. She is not like other women in how she thinks or acts, yet she has those women traits. Femininity, nurturing, softness, beauty, etc.
The same goes for understanding men. I once heard a comedian say that you can tell a lot about men and women by their shoes. Men have basically brown, black and tennis shoes in their closet. Women have “names” for their shoes.
Today we have become such an intolerant society. “My way or the highway” has become the norm. It would seem that no one wants to work out the difference amicably, or compromise. Marriages today have become hotbeds of differences, which leads to divorces in high numbers.
Men are natural leaders. How they lead is the important issue. Men should not lead by dictatorship. That’s not a relationship. Men should lead by example so that their wives desire to follow them, rather than defy his leadership.
In my world, I do my very best (not always successful) to help my wife achieve her dreams. I do my very best (not always successful) to treat her as a gift. I do my very best (not always successful) to not take her for granted. She’s a good balance for me and prevents me from going too far “out of bounds”. Many, even in marriages, don’t want boundaries.
As an example, I love my wife unconditionally. Yes, there are conditions. Adultery can break the deal. Opportunities like that won’t occur as long as we value and love our spouses.
So we can heal a nation, and world, by healing a relationship. Each of us has a part to play. The stronger our marriages become, the stronger our nation can become. A marriage is a place of accountability. One cannot do as they please within the confines of the marriage. Selfishness is never good in a marriage.
Initially there is a certain passion that starts in a marriage. As time moves on that special passion is replaced by other passions. Deeper commitment. Deeper love. Deeper trust.
Let’s all try to enact the relationship game very well. It is work to make it last. In a marriage, we should love, accept, and forgive all the time. Add some good communication to that and you have the formula for another success story.
Successful marriage can equal a successful and healthy world. I think we can all agree with that.